Things changed, hence I change my mind.

I am sure many of you will think of the word FICKLE minded. And fickle tend to have a negative connotation. But hold on a moment, is changing your mind that bad?

Let's use this example. A high income parent promise the child an extravagant birthday celebration. But shortly afterwards there is a significant cash outflow that make this extravagant party too extravagant. Should the party go ahead as promised?

Or for career. You promised a colleague to help up with a task for his project, but then you are hit by an urgent task in your project. If you only have time for 1 item, will you sacrifice your task for a promise you made?

Conversely, how many times have a manager promise promotion if you do xyz, only to say sorry circumstances changed, I can't give you the promotion.

Alright. I make examples that point very much to changing your mind or breaking a promise is okay. But many times, why was a promise or why was the mind changed? Simply because there are better options available or we see things in a different light and chose to stray from the originally intended mind.

Should you put yourself in disadvantage just because you have said you would do A?

There are some people who take what they have said so seriously that they would rather put themselves in disadvantage than to go back on their words. I had been like that before. But as I see people changing their mind, or taking back their words, to their advantage, I see that putting yourself accountable simply to what you have said is pretty silly.

The world is so dynamic, and even taxes can change (:p) , so why can't our mind. Trying to hold ourselves accountable for what we have said is plain silly, unless there is a contract to bind us by it.

Similarly, expecting others to continue keep their words is plain silly.

Nothing is constant. Things change, and our minds and decisions can change. No need to hold yourself to what you have said or promised unless it it legally binding.

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